My prayers are with you!  / Janett Corry (None)

As I read this the tears were flowing. My heart goes out to  Trevor..but most of all he is at peace.

All that you did for him to make his life better..You are truly an angel on this earth. God Bless You!

Janett Corry

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Some of my memories of Trevor  / Barb Aleman (Mom)

Trevor made me laugh so many times, many of them when he'd done things I likely should have been annoyed with him about.

One time shortly after I got him Roze & I had been shopping and then went out for lunch. It was a small sandwich shop. Trevor wasn't very quiet and as Roze has mentioned had extremely long arms. In other words, it wasn't a place where we could go un noticed for long. I'm not sure how he did it but at one point he'd been playing with a straw and flicked it quite accurately so it landed on the plate of a little old lady. She looked horrified. I could tell that she expected me to get mad at Trevor but I was laughing so hard I couldn't do anything about it. Trevor never could have planned to do that, it just happened.

Another time after I'd had him a few months, my mom was visiting. We'd been out all day and were exhausted. We stopped at a Boston Pizza restaurant for dinner and were just sitting there unable to do much. They brought us each glasses of water with a piece of lemon on the glass. Before either of us could react Trevor had grabbed the nearest piece of lemon and was eating the whole thing. The poor waiter must have thought we'd taken leave of our senses as when he came around to take our orders we were laughing so hard neither of us could speak.

One time we were leaving a grocery store when I looked down at Trevor and discovered that he was eating a chocolate bar wrapper and all. I turned around and went to pay for it. The poor lady looked horrified when I said that no Trevor did not get to keep it and could she please dispose of it for me.

I have many pictures of Trevor getting into mischief.

 

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Memory of Trevor  / Arnold &. Eleanor Tracey (Pastor)

Trevor lived in a world where angels ministered to him silently, or perhaps not so silently in ways few of us will be privileged to experience. Under the compassionate love and tender care of Barb he flourished into a young man able to communicate in ways no one would have dreamt possible in his early years.

He was truly blessed as were those of us who ejoyed his smiles of joy and exuberance, and sometimes sounds of sadness and pain...but mostly happy and contented sounds in his own "Trevor language". We will miss his participation in our services and fellowship times here at Wildwood.

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Memory of Trevor  / Andrea (caregiver)
I will always remember singing songs with Trevor and clapping with him. Trevor and I clapped together with one of each of our hands. Trevor would bounce his hand off my paom to tell me to keep singing and clapping with him. I will also remember Trevor saying "hi"to his astronaut and waving at him. Most of all I will remember Trevor's kind spirit and gentle good nature. Trevor definitely taught me to take joy in simple every day moments. Close

Memory of Trevor  / Rod Birch (grade 4/5 teacher )
Trevor was in my class for grades 4 & 5 at Whonnock Elementary. He was a joy to have in the class. He had sparkly eyes and always a big smile. He loved music in the class and got very excited when it was being played. His classmates loved him and thoroughly enjoyed to work with him and take him on walks. Close

Memory of Trevor  / Tanya (caregiver)

The first time I met Trevor, all I could remember when I went home was his beautiful eyes-what a beautiful boy he was. He will be in my thoughts always.

My mmost special memories: walks around the neighbourhood, playing in water on his tray, he loved to splash his hands through the water. His smile after a bath when I'd say all new, all done. He loved his bath. One bathtime I put some soap in Trevor's hands-the next thing he screached so loud I got a fright. He was happy!! He loved the feel of the soap in his hands. I remember the first week after summer vacation arriving at Barb and Trevor's house. Trevor had just started school again after summer vacation and had started taking the bus. From the minute I arrived he started telling me all about his bus rides to and from school. He was so excited. He loved to ride the bus with the other kids. Trevor especially loved his mom-Barb. He loved to hear her read his favorite bed time stories and so did I. I could hear them on the monitor in the living room. I could never quite get the same response to a story. He was lucky to have had such a special mom!

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Memory of Trevor  / Cindy Tyler (school nurse )
Trevor....many memories of Trevor. Most important though were Trevor's eyes. His eyes were so expressive, connecting and caring. He engaged you with his eyes and then brightened your day with his smile. I'm so fortunate to have met Trevor and Barb. I will truly miss Trevor. Close

Memory of Trevor  / Brian &. Velma Murton (friends from Church )

His eyes always held a smile when he saw those that loved him. Glad you are Home Trevor.

The eyes are the window of the soul.

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Memory of Trevor  / Natasha MacArthur (caregiver)

I remember when Trevor, Barb & I went to the Abbotsford Air Show. We looked at all the planes, some of them inside too, and then we watched some of the flying. At one point though, Trevor got so distracted by the motorcycle security guys that we couldn't convince him to watch the real show up in the air. That was a fun day.

Another favourite memory was the lasughter we shared when Barb got calls from the school office to let you know that Trevor was truant. The stories we made up about what he was doing were hilarious.

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Memory of Trevor  / Rozanne Sander (family member )

We remember Trevor when he first came to Barb. He could still walk but wasn't very responsive. That didn't last too long. Under Barb's nurturing care he soon started smiling and showing his mischievous side.

One day Barb asked me to go grocery shopping with her so she could get the grocery cart and I could wheel the chair with Mr. Trevor. I didn't know he had a tremendous reach. I turned around and found him about to bowl with a cantelope. Also as lunch he managed to reach most everything on the table that took his fancy. We will miss Trevor but we are so pleased he is free and enjoying our Lord.

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Tribute to Trevor  / Arnold Tracey (Pastor)

This was the message given at Trevor's memorial service December 30, 2008:

Tribute to trevor - 2008

I want to thank everyone for coming here this afternoon to express your love and support.

Your presence here is a tribute to Trevor.


Barb, I want to begin by saying how sorry I am for your loss.

I wish I could take your sorrow away, but I know I can’t.

The loss of a loved one is probably the most difficult time in life − it’s never comfortable or easy.

Sometimes it can seem unbearable.

The bible doesn’t say not to grieve.

It says if a believer in Jesus dies, we don’t grieve as those who have no hope.

We have hope today... Not
Wishing, but knowing two things:
1. Trevor is in heaven right now!
2. We can see him again!

I have no doubt that Trevor embraced Jesus with childlike faith. Now Jesus has embraced him!

In his very first sermon Jesus made promises to all who believe...

Matthew 5:3-8
3 “blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
4 blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
5 blessed are the meek, for they will inherit the earth.
6 blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they will be filled.
7 blessed are the merciful, for they will be shown mercy.
8 blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see god.”

It seems like Trevor left this world too soon.

but people like Trevor always seem to leave too soon!
Yes, 16 is too young to die...
But if Trevor was 80, it would still
Feel like it was too soon to lose someone you love!

Trevor never experienced fame or fortune.

He never left no great works of art.

He wrote no books. He made no great discovery.

His joys were simple. His abilities were limited.

Yet he impacted all of us with his bubbly personality and exuberance for life.

We can all see that Trevor is not in his wheelchair right now.

For some of us we have mixed feelings.

There is sorrow at the thought of not having Trevor
With us. this is often a time of

Questioning...
-why?
-why Trevor?
-why now?

Those questions are all natural.

I wish I had the answers, but I don’t.

Some questions have no answers and even some answers offer very little comfort.

However, I am confident that God understands what we’re feeling.

The Bible says Jesus was “a man of sorrows, acquainted with grief.”

I am also confident that in times like these we all need the same things... Comfort, rest, hope, strength and peace.

All of those things are found in Jesus!

When life strikes a blow like
This, it seems like people either
Turn to God or they turn away
From God.

I think Trevor would tell you to turn to God!

Jesus said, “God has sent me to bind up the broken hearted and to comfort all who mourn.”

He also said, “as a mother comforts her child, so I will comfort you.”

God understands the sorrow we all feel at losing Trevor.
but He does more than just understand.

He shares that sorrow and He will bear that sorrow if we let him!

After all, God knows what it’s like to lose a son!

People often wonder what it’s like to die.

Years ago, a wise
Christian mother explained it best ….. Her son developed a fatal disease. The disease progressed rapidly. At first he was unable to go to school. Then unable to go play outside and finally confined to his bed. One day the question his mother dreaded most came. “Mommy, what’s it like to die?” Though she’d prepared herself for that moment, she couldn’t handle it when it came. She left the room, and there in the bathroom she prayed for strength and wisdom. When she came back into the room she said, “honey, remember when you were little and you would fall asleep in the car? The next morning when you woke up you would be in your own bed. Do you know how you got there? Your father came and lifted you up and gently carried you to your own bed in your own room. That is what it’s like to die.”

On Dec. 15, Trevor fell asleep in Barb’s arms.

When he did, the greatest arms in the universe slipped under him, gently lifted him up and carried him to a place that is safe and secure – a place that will forever be Trevors!

You see, Jesus made promises to us all ... Including Trevor.

He said, “do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in god; trust also in me. In my father’s house are many rooms; if it were not so, I would have told you. I am going there to prepare a place for you; and if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me, that you also may be where I am.”

Jesus fulfilled that promise to Trevor on Dec. 15.

And right now, Trevor is experiencing Jesus the way he always dreamed of ... Face to face!

God has given us all one more thing ….. Our memory of Trevor!

remember how happy he made you.

but just as important,

Remember how happy you made him.

When Trevor fell asleep in
Barb’s arm’s, he disturbed no one.

in fact, Trevor never hurt anyone all through his short life.

How many of us have a legacy like that?

as Jesus allowed him to fall asleep, he quietly and gently woke him with the words, “welcome home Trevor”.

as Trevor flung his physcial limitations aside and rose to meet his maker, he was guided upward, along the unwalked pathway, by the beams of “the morning star”, which, like the star of bethlehem, ushered him into the presence of the king!

Just imagine....
Stepping on shore and finding it heaven
of taking hold of a hand and finding it God’s hand
of breathing in new air and finding it heaven’s air

Of feeling invigorated and finding it immortality
of passing from a storm and finding eternal calm
of waking up in heaven and finding
It to be home.

The bible says, “weeping may endure for a night, buy joy comes in the morning.”

There is no need to erect a monument to Trevor.

God has already done that in heaven.

the place he has prepared just for Trevor!

Heaven ... With all its freshness and its purity ... All so solemn and yet so full of hope; these are now Trevor’s.

Looking around this room with people who knew & loved Trevor − one thing becomes very clear.

If life is measured by what’s left behind −Trevor’s life was
truly a full and successful one.

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Praying for you!  / Dee N' Timothy Bird (MD friend )

Barb: I 'm so sorry to hear of the loss of Trevor.  I'm sorry that he had such a struggle, but understand why it was the best. 

Tim and I will keep you in our prayers during this difficult time.

Safe Hugs!

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response to: sad news from an old friend  / Jim, April, Angela &. Carly Plasteras (friends)
Barb, our dear friend ...

My heart so aches for what you are going through. After viewing Trevor's memorial website, I am again reminded of what an amazing Mom you are! Trevor was given every opportunity and more to enjoy life - which he did to the fullest. God sent him to you for a reason, and your job was complete. You gave him the happiest of lives with the love and unwavering devotion that God knew only you could give him. In every picture I saw of Trevor, you could see in his eyes the joy he took in experiencing life around him. Trevor deserved the best, and he got it from you. What a comforting way to leave this world and enter heaven, from your arms into the arms of Jesus. There could be no better way! I wish I could wrap my arms around you right now and comfort your hurt like you are always doing for others. It is an honour to know you Barb and to have been also blessed by your love and devotion. Please know that we are praying for you and although sad that Trevor has physically left us, he lives on in the lives of all those he touched and is being held close in the warmth and love of Jesus.

Love from all of us,
April, Jim, Angela & Carly
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response to: sharing sad news  / John (friend in China )
I read your message and the emotion quickly rose up and caught in my throat. The tears flowed because as a dad who dearly loves his own children, I know what this means. Our lives are so full of pain. Not the least of which is mine. I often wonder about that. We think that as believers that means God will or should exempt us from terrible hurts and injustices, but he does not. Rather, as David said “though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil. For you are with me. Your rod and staff, they comfort me.” So we find the truth that we are not exempted. But He walks with us through it and comforts us. In the New Testament the picture is painted a different way – of Jesus in the boat during the storm. And while they thought he was sleeping – actually he was fully aware and woke to say “where was your faith?”. Faith – “the assurance of what is hoped for. The certainty of what is not yet seen.” I was reading in Isaiah 25 where it talks about our great hope – the time when Jesus will rule and what that will mean to us. It says,

“On this mountain he will destroy the shroud that enfolds all peoples, the sheet that covers all nations; he will swallow up death forever. The Sovereign Lord will wipe away the tears from all faces; he will remove the disgrace of his people from the earth. The Lord has spoken.” (vs 7-8)

“But your dead will live; their bodies will rise. You who dwell in the dust, wake up and shout for joy.” (Is 26:19)


I love you my sweet sister and am giving you a hug all the way from China. Now may He comfort you so that your sorrow is replaced with joy and a peace that passes understanding. Please continue to let me know how you are doing so I can walk along this path with you for a little while.

Agape!

John

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response to: He's safe in the arms of Jesus  / Gretchen Letteney (dmd friend )
I am so sorry to hear about Trevor. My heart breaks for you. Now you have another angel in heaven to watch over you. My prayers and thoughts go out to you and your family and friends. Trevor was a brave young man and you were an awesome mother to him and such a strong strong advocate for trevor.
I just saw your email because we had very bad ice storms in Massachusetts and I had to take my son to a relative's home for a few days because we had no power or heat. He is on hospice so it was challenging but nowhere near what you are going through.
Thank you for sharing pictures of Trevor and messages talking about the good times and bad times that the two of you had. I am happy that you took Trevor to Disney World. May the many happy memories that you have bring you peace and solace.
God bless you, Barb.
Love and prayers,
Gretchen,
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response to: He's safe in the arms of Jesus  / Dana Miller (dmd friend )

Hello Barb, I never say much, but read everything and have grieved quietly for many parents and families over the years, I was truly inspired by all of your postings regarding Trevors last few days and how couragously you acted all the way, as a mom of an almost 13 year old with DMD (who has been in his chair since 8) I take notice of all that occurs on the list and have wondered many times how I will handle everything when the time comes (hopefully not for many many years) I think I take a small piece of everyones experience and tuck it away for later. I just wanted you to know how much your account to the list of all that has happened helps others so very much. You are a courageous and inspiring women and I am so truly sorry for the tremendous loss you have suffered in loosing Trevor.

Prayers and best wishes

Dana Miller and family

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Trevor's Candle  / Miriam Weir (cpsk friend )
Barb--for such a long time I have watched you and
Trevor live a warm and wonderful life together--I have
loved the thoughts of how much you gave to his life,
when it certainly would not have been there
otherwise---and as a grandmom with a child with
disabillities, I also know how much Trevor gave to
your life, day by day, minute by minute.When people
say, "wow, she is so fortunate to have you"--my
response is "No, I am so fortunate to have her"-our
special blessings fill our world with so much--so much
worry, so much fatigue, so much agrivation with the
outside world in their behalf---but most of all, they
give us love beyond measure and they truely make US
more than we ever thought or knew we could be!!Thank
you for every minute of love and happiness you gave
that wonderful young man, until he said "take a break
now Mom, I'm going home to Jesus!"I loved your party
for him--now, his welcome party on the other side-and
one day it will be that party when you get to see
Trevor and Kayda again, and they can walk, and run and
dance with you in celebration!!Til then, know that you
certainly did a wonderful job down here!!My
love-Miriam
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response to: He's safe in the arms of Jesus  / Cloe (dmd friend )
My heart goes out to you Barb. and? all of Trevor's family, so sorry to hear about your great loss. Thank you for sharing your true feelings...Hang in there sister! Between Heaven and Earth.
Love and support, Cloe' and her family.
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response to: He's safe in the arms of Jesus  / Marie Pichaske (dmd friend )
I, too offer prayers and thoughts. What a remarkable woman you are to have a celebration with him and so heartfelt and strong.

Marie
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Love to you and Trevor  / Susan Hatten (friend of a friend )
Dear Barb,
I am a friend of Sharon's here in Columbus. (I know Darien too, but have not seen her for a while.)

I want you to know that I am thinking of you and dear sweet Trevor. I hope he will look down on all of us and smile.
Love to you,
Susan Hatten
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